Traditions and superstitions
Granted, some people are more superstitious than others but when it comes to weddings, these superstitions almost represent an unwritten rule book. From the nervous brides who reveal not an inch of information on her dress in case it reaches the groom, to the panic from each and every guest that rain just might be possible on this big day… but is that good or bad? Let’s take a look at 8 of the most common traditions and superstitions for UK weddings.
Why the bride and groom don’t see each other before the wedding
This superstition dates back to the early days of arranged marriages, where brides and grooms were unable to see each other on their wedding day until they met at the altar. This idea was presumably put in place to avoid either the man or woman from having second thoughts once seeing the other. This superstition has now escalated to some brides and grooms not seeing each other for as much as two full days before the wedding, so not to take any chances. Rumour has it, if you do take that sneak-peek before the ceremony starts, there won’t be a happy ending for your marriage, so stay well away!
Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue
Possibly one of the most common traditions seen across weddings in the UK, a series of small gifts or loans are passed onto the bride on her big day. Something old represents something from the bride’s past while something new is to symbolise this new and happy pathway she has taken in life. Traditionally, something borrowed should be lent to the bride from another happily married woman, in hope that there is luck within the borrowed item, but this has morphed into a loaned gift from anyone who is special in the bride’s life. Something blue is the gift that represents the loyalty and love between the couple, which will remain always… so long as you don’t lose your something blue!
Mother of the bride’s hat
Dating way back to the when the costs of a wedding relied only upon the parents of the bride, mothers used to wear a large, extravagant hat in a bid to not let the guests outshine her, as the host. It then became that both parties involved in the wedding would pay their part for their beloved child, which allowed the mother of the groom to wear an equally striking hat. The tradition has faded somewhat nowadays, with the happy couple paying their own way and the mothers opting for a smaller hat or fascinator.
Rain on your wedding day
A superstition linked with both positive and negative outcomes, what does rain on your wedding day really mean? Some say that the heavier the shower, the more tears will be shed throughout the marriage, while others strongly believe that it just implies bad luck all over. Besides, what sounds particularly great about a downfall on your only wedding day anyway? Others, I’m sure, will beg to differ. With the idea of rain washing away any impurities and cleansing the path ahead for both the bride and groom, there is a slightly stronger superstition that the rain simply equates to good luck. There are also beliefs that rainwater encourages strong fertility, allowing the couple to start their family pretty soon after marriage.
Brides must drop their maiden name
This is a tradition which has lasted since the beginning of marriages. The unwritten rule that a bride should drop her family name and adopt the husbands’ is something that we now see revolving in modern day marriages. The tradition started when the idea of a name change was to imply that the bride was now the husband’s property. With the strong-minded, feminist brides we see now, there are many who have dropped that tradition and carried on using their own family name. Some grooms have even swayed to dropping theirs and using their wife’s. Cheers to girl power!
Why do brides get given away?
Another tradition dating back to the early days of arranged marriages, this was an action used to signify that the bride was, quite literally, being given away. She would have been moved from her father’s property, to her husbands in exchange for money. In weddings nowadays, the bride is able to choose whoever she wishes to give her away, but it is still a highly popular choice to opt for the dad, creating a special moment and stronger bond between the two.
Why does the bride stand to the left of the groom?
A traditional superstition as to why the bride stands to the left of the groom, is that the grooms right hand, which was deemed to be the stronger across all men, needed to be free to fight anyone who planned to ‘steal’ his wife. His left hand would therefore be free to protect her. Although the tradition no longer carries the same tale with it, brides remain on the grooms left throughout the ceremony.
Do you really need to avoid Saturdays?
Saturdays. The day for doomed weddings… or so we are told! With Saturdays being the most expensive day of the week to book a venue, its apparent that not many couples believe in this superstition. However, according to English Folklore, this day of the week will curse couples with an unhappy marriage. It also was believed they the 13th of any month should be avoided, as well as the entire month of May. At least that should open up some availability at your favourite venue!
A wedding dress is most definitely not a tradition you should be dismissing, so why not arrange a meeting with us at Proposals Crawley to try on a selection of gorgeous gowns for your big day, whether it be traditional or not! Give us a call on 01293 521635 and we will be happy to help.